Why Does Our Prayer Seem to Go Unanswered?
Have you wondered to yourself, “Who or what is to blame for the events in our human lives that bring unhappiness and despair?” If we profess a conviction of the goodness and infinitude of God as pure Love, we can only properly and logically conclude that only we, ourselves, humans, could be responsible for the discords we experience. But then, since we admit God to be pure good and all-harmonious, whence comes what seems to be discord? And we certainly don’t experience what we do not want purposely! So, you may ask yourself, “What is actually going on?” .
We learn in Christian Science that “The starting point of divine Science is that God, Spirit, is All-in-all – that God is Love, and therefore He is divine Principle.: (S&H p.275, Mary Baker Eddy) Having been raised with the Christian Science thought, it has been difficult for me to understand that not all other Christians immediately come to the conclusion that God is ALL good, ONLY good, and that concepts of any kind which assume that God could be the source of anything UNLIKE Good, are FALSE. To the mortal sense of human life we are born into a material world. This platform sweeps spirituality under the rug – while acknowledging that the things of spirit exist, this platform of understanding considers spirit to be very far removed from daily life. This conventionally accepted thinking begins with the assumption that God is the creator of both everything that appears to our senses, as well as of the things which are not tangible to our senses, the spiritual. No line is drawn between the spiritual and the material, or - stated in terms we use shortly - between the real and the unreal, the solid and the illusory. It is also likely, from the standpoint of many readers, that the idea that one of the two approaches, spirituality or materiality, is illusory, is a brand new concept. Which is which?
Let’s stop right here and open our minds. Let’s wipe the slate clean. Try the following thoughts - see how they feel. Maybe this is new and foreign and uncomfortable for you. Don’t reject it without giving yourself the opportunity to wear it for a while. Test it logically. Should you object, watch closely for your own invisible logical contradictions in those objections. Test them thoroughly.
Here it is:
Real life, the Life God gives us, is purely and only spiritual. Matter has characteristics which are actually opposite to Spirit. The nature of matter is finite and temporal. The nature of Spirit is infinite, eternal, permanent. Spirit is ubiquitous. Matter is not. There is no place where Spirit is not. Spirit’s substance is in its thoughts and ideas. What is the substance of matter? The explanation of matter can never be in any way spiritual, for its very nature is in contrast with Spirit. Therefore, the parts of life that are associated with matter – cannot even have a spiritual basis. If then you understand God, who is spiritual and obviously not material, to be entirely good and infinite in presence, then ask yourself this: What, then, and whence, is matter? The answer to this question is one which to common human sense and to what we commonly perceive as common sense logic most strongly objects – namely that matter must be by logical deduction – erroneous! Let’s examine this idea slowly and logically, especially if it seems rather ridiculous to you right now.
What are matter’s characteristics? They are decidedly unlike Spirit, for matter does not fill every cubic centimeter of space in the universe, and matter is ever changing and is always in a temporary state. Try to conceive of something made of matter which has always been and always will be just as it is, from the beginning of time to eternity. There is no material object that fits that description. Spirit, however, has exactly opposing characteristics from matter. Spirit does fill all space, and is eternally the same, is never variable, is never changeable in its loving nature, is incapable of decay, is incapable of discord. Matter then, logically must be the exact opposite of Spirit. And Spirit is ubiquitous! If one begins with the standard Christian platform that God is All, then by logical deduction, Spirit is everywhere and nothing else unlike it exists.
The traditional starting point, a generally human-like perspective of a God capable of wavering and changing his mind - usually leads one to say “ I have prayed and asked for all that I need, but it never happens. He must not be listening to me, or He has a reason for withholding my requests.”
But, think about this from the perspective of de-humanizing our concept of God. Think of God as being absolutely ALL, comprised ONLY of Spirit, Good and Love, in an infinitude which allows no room for anything to exist that is unlike God, Love, good. Stop thinking of Him as a human. Ponder this deeply before you go on. Could God, an infinite and ever-present Principle, Love itself, be to blame for your lack? Does He really fail to answer or refuse your prayers for say, financial support, or for a job, or for the removal of any kind of discord, or disease in our experience? In James 4:3 we read “Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss…” Return for a moment and ponder the perspective that God is Spirit and therefore incapable of creating matter because all of matter’s characteristics are completely opposite to His character. Ponder that. Consider what are you praying for and how to effectively pray for it.
Jesus said “when ye pray, use not vain repetitions, as the heathens do: for they think that they shall be heard for their much speaking.” (Matt 6: 7) Think about what Jesus’ concept (whose concepts were perfect) of God must have been. If one were to pray to a big powerful human, we would want to try to impress that human, and make him feel like he had good reason for listening to us. I believe that Jesus did NOT pray to God as a big supremely powerful human entity. From that perspective, it would make sense not to try to impress God, and to perceive that God would not respond to a lot of talk. I perceive that Jesus saw God as a perfect and ever-present Principle of Love, always available, never needing to be informed about our miseries and woes. He knew that God does not know those miseries and woes, because miseries and woes have no source in the infinite and perfect source of Love. To tell God about them is therefore to tell God about - nothing. Jesus knew that God’s compassion for us is simply an ever-presence which becomes real to us when we feel it – through deep and prayerful communion with him in Spirit. He knew that God need not be informed of our perceived woes when he said “for your Father knoweth what things ye have need of, before ye ask him.” Matt 6: 8. (emphasis added).
Are you praying to receive something made of matter from a God who is man-like? Or asking to get rid of something made of matter created by a God who is man-like? Now ponder again. Maybe this is asking “amiss”. Get a firm grip on the concept of the actual nothingness of matter, and the accompanying necessity of the complete somethingness of spirit. What are you really needing to pray for? What should you be praying for? What you really need is the spiritual substance of the idea that comprises whatever it is that it seems you feel that you need - because that spiritual substance is its true nature. You do not need the material thing, although as long as you are human, the answer may indeed come to you cloaked in a material form. “Faith is the substance if things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen”. Hebrews 11:11. The matter version of what we are praying for is a counterfeit, and God does not hear prayer for that because such prayer cognizes the need or existence of something outside of His kingdom.
For example, if you are poor, you should not be praying for dollar bills – rather you need to pray to know through your prayer the spiritual truth that God supplies all your needs, and to understand that He supplies them in spirit because that is where the only real and actual substance IS, within the infinitely self contained spiritual substance of God himself.
Jesus is always our example. When he fed the five thousand, he did not elaborately pray to God and ask that God provide what was needed in the form of material food. According to Matt 14:19 “…he commanded the multitude to sit down on the grass, and took the five loaves, and the two fishes, and looking up to heaven, he blessed, and brake, and gave the loaves to his disciples, and the disciples to the multitude” Ponder Jesus’ complete trust and confidence in God – Jesus simply looked up to heaven (contemplated the true spiritual situation), blessed, and then gave out the bread. The multitude saw the bread (the knowledge he had been giving them), and they ate it. Simple as that. To God it was no miracle – it was the reality of the completeness of the spiritual situation brought to light. He did not plead anything like, “O Holy Father please give us bread enough for this multitude to eat.” He did not ask or plead at all, just as he instructed us not to do in our prayers as well. He simply KNEW and trusted in God’s infinite Love and tender care and supply of all good. Knowing that brought it to manifestation in everyone’s experience.
Or, if you are suffering from a deadly disease, you should not be praying from the standpoint of God getting rid of this terrible material thing called a virus, or a disease, or whatever form it may be in – rather you need to pray to understand that God supplies all health, and that real health is in the form of Spirit, because God is ONLY spiritual, and ONLY good. Remember, if our reasoning concluded that matter has no source in God, then disease can have no source in God. Matter is the only form disease can take, because it has NO spiritual source, and matter is the opposite of Spirit. As soon as consciousness recognizes the nothingness of the source of disease, in light of the ALLNESS of God, disease vanishes from experience. This is the science behind the remarkable healings of Jesus, his disciples, the apostles, and many present day Christians.
Again, Jesus is always our example. One could pick any one of the many physical healing Jesus performed. For the sake of example let’s consider Jesus’ healing of the epileptic boy in Mathew 17: 14-21. How did Jesus pray in this situation? All Jesus did was to “rebuke the devil”. He denied that there was any power outside of the realm of the kingdom of God. Then he mentally stood unmovable on that platform. Verse 18 says that “the child was cured from that very hour.” What did Jesus NOT do? He did NOT plead with God and ask if God were willing that the child should live or die, and he did not ask God to remove anything. In contrast, he affirmed God’s power by “rebuking the devil”, or confirming that there was NO power but God, Love. This is why he gave absolutely NO attention to the body or its conditions. These characteristics are common to EVERY spiritual healing found in the Bible.
So, is God responsible for what feels like misery? That is how a lot of people feel, and they end up feeling alone and disconnected from God. This false conception of God as responsible for our human woes even turns many away from Christianity itself. After all, if there is never a guarantee that God will answer our prayer in a tangible and good way, and God could decide to do bad things to us for reasons we do not understand, why should we want to trust in him? I and countless others do not believe God to have these changeable characteristics. This approach is a product of the false belief that God is responsible for both reality (Spirit) and what we do not realize is really deceptive illusion in this sort of dream world we call human material life. We must start with the premise that evil is not valid, has NO source, and that God, good is ALL. From this standpoint of God being all Good and filling all eternity and space, is it even possible to be forgotten or ignored by The Almighty?
No! God is, always and always has been, and always will be invariable and unchangeable Love. We, as humans, have to be in tune with the ever-presence of God, and never to doubt his presence. What feels like God’s absence to our human sense, is really but a burial of our thought in that which has only a mortal and human origin. God can never be absent. We never need to ask him for anything or beg that he be present and listen. We have only to focus our spiritual attention on his presence. There are rational and helpful explanations to what we feel as effects of mortal (not God-like) thought. It seldom occurs to humans that their prayers appear to remain unanswered because they fail to understand who and what God actually is, just what prayer actually is, and how to effectually pray. A truly humble approach will consider the possibility that maybe our approach to God is lacking something, missing the point, and hence failing. We need to do a lot more than simply believe in whatever we perceive God to be. We need to learn to gradually better understand God, and through a better understanding of Him and the operation of his ever-present Principle, gain an understanding of exactly what we are believing in. In this way, belief is gradually transformed into faith. True spiritually based faith is much deeper than belief. It is conviction grounded in understanding and solid trust.
We do ourselves a big favor by humbly considering the possibility that the concepts we have about God may be flawed. “The devil” , though seeming very real to us sometimes, is nothing the false concept that anything can possibly exist outside of the realm of God. The ultimate success of “the devil” is to fool man into believing that God is responsible for the devil’s very existence. Seen in this light we can see that the devil has been quite successful in the human world, for the vast majority of well meaning Christians actually place the blame for both good AND evil on God. Just what the devil wanted! Keep clearly in mind though, that the devil, or error, or evil, or whatever name you want to put on ideas outside of the realm of God, HAS no source, except in erring human misperception. The Adam man perceives the devil. Paul confirms and stresses that we are to put off the old man, the carnal man, the Adam man, and that we are to put off mortality and put on immortality. There is no way to accomplish this task through human and materialistic thought.
There is no such thing as a prayer unanswered or unheard. Effectual prayer reveals and confirms our permanent and uninterruptable connection with God. Is your prayer leading you to the peace that comes to consciousness through this kind of spiritual confirmation? Or is your prayer based on the false assumption that you are lacking something, and your prayer should result in God giving you the thing which your false and purely human Adam-man-belief says that you lack? Such prayer fails to reveal and confirm our the ever present connection with God. If our prayers are to be effective, we need to understand what prayer itself actually is, and we need to comprehend the scope of God - what He is and what He is not. This process of learning to know God and His workings is the spiritualization of thought. But just how do we spiritualize our thought?
Spiritualization of thought begins with eliminating the concepts of materialism in thought. Let’s begin this analysis by considering the concept of Spirit itself. Spirit is an important synonym for God. The characteristic traits of spirit exist only in thought. Can your hands touch spirit, your ears hear it, your eyes see it? Can you taste and smell Spirit with your mouth or tongue? Of course not! Obviously, then, Spirit is not made up of matter and has nothing to do with matter. The commonly accepted belief is that God created matter, and here is where our entire approach needs to take a different direction. We cannot touch spirit with the senses of matter. The things of spirit are admitted to be ever present, permanent, everywhere, and eternal in nature. In psalms 139:9,10 we read “ if I take the wings of the morning , and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea ; Even there shall thy hand lead me, and thy right hand shall hold me“
Even in the darkest recesses of the most terrible situations we can imagine, and sometimes even find ourselves in, the infinitude of God leaves no logical place in the universe for matter at all! If Spirit is everything, and its opposite is matter, then from the perspective of God, matter is nothing – but a false concept of human thinking. Following this train of thought which seems radical to the traditional thinker, we find that the elimination of materialism in thought means much more than it sounds like on the surface. To eliminate materialism, we must eradicate any and all recognition of anything and everything unlike God from our conception of what we interpret as God’s reality – our human experience. Matter, by the above analysis, is the main thing to root out! We must instead think and live pure Spirit.
And in Romans 8:25-39 we read “Who shall separate us from the love of Christ...” and it goes on to list all of the things which human sense might say are insurmountable, while to spiritual sense, Paul knew that separation from God is an impossibility. If God, Spirit, intangible to the human senses, is also admitted to be all and include all and to fill all space, we must admit that we cannot be separated from Him.
We must always begin our analysis of our human situations with the acknowledgment that God is All, infinite. God is all and entirely good, and consistent Principle. And that there is only one God, and because of his infinity, nothing else actually exists except for God and the things which represent Him. And because God is Spirit and all spiritual, and is not material, then material concepts, matter itself, must be seen as existing only in a suppositious human consciousness. If God truly comprises all that exists, and we are made in his image and likeness, we are in fact spiritual and perfect, just as God is.
Spiritualization of thought, then, is the process of eliminating all that is unlike Spirit in our consciousness. This is more than pretty sounding words – it is the human task of making Spirit the number one factor in our consciousness. This means we must change our everyday human points of view which tend to forget about Spirit, wherein we falsely regard Spirit as something far off and intangible. We have to literally live Spirit and feel God continually. As Spirit becomes more tangible to us, then matter itself gradually becomes less tangible. When we learn to trust Spirit and to know that all we ever need is continually at hand, because we ARE the spiritual representatives of God himself, then all of our needs become manifested in our experience.